Magnolia icon Joanna Gaines revealed she’s writing her first solo memoir The stories we tellIt helped her unlock memories in a way she thought she could never do again. And as she found a new perspective on her life, she learned how to approach her relationships so she could enjoy little moments — and Chip’s sense of humor — more.
Joanna spoke about memories in an article from the Magnolia Blog, which also appeared in the winter 2022 issue of the Magnolia Journal. In particular, she addressed how her memories of some of her favorite moments became difficult to access.
Joanna wrote, “As much as I wanted to believe that somewhere in the dusty corners of my mind were memories crisp and clear — the way my heart swelled as each of my children took their first shaky steps, the first time they were Chip.” really made me laugh hard, the feel of my hand being tucked into my mother’s – every year they seem to fade a little more.”
“I couldn’t easily recall those tender little moments, the ones I think you wish you could cherish later, years from now,” she explained. “Just to breathe them in again. To feel that part of your life again.”
Writing her memoir helped Joanna touch those moments once again. “…The more I wrote, the more I remembered and the more I could do feeling the moments themselves,” she shared.
Joanna shared that tapping into her memories to write allowed her to create a “landscape of a lifetime” that she believed was lost to her. Now she lets “this landscape reveal what [she wants] more of that in this next chapter of life,” adding, “I let the history of my days to date show me which moments are worth pursuing.”
The Magnolia business icon explained how her new perspective has shown her that she “can’t go back to the early days of motherhood,” but she can “look out for moments to remember.” [her she’s] A mother.”
“…And I let it take my breath away,” she explained.
“I can look Chip in the eye the next time he cracks a joke and just take a minute or two to reflect on how much I love his sense of humor,” she continued. “Every time we say goodbye, I can hug my mom a little tighter.”
In her Magnolia essay, Joanna said she’s moving forward with a new focus thanks to the lessons of writing.
“… Next time I look back, I don’t want to see a kind of kaleidoscope of life – blurred and jumbled – where the moments I swore I’d never forget are hard to discern amidst the chaos of thoughts and unresolved memories ‘ she shared.
“I want to live the next season of this beautiful life in focus.”
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