A new campaign from police Scotland urges men to consider whether or not they will identify themselves as “that guy” in a viral new campaign.
The Don’t Be That Guy campaign aims to address the problem of sexual violence through open discussions with men about sexual claims.
In a video released by Police Scotland, actors ask viewers if they have ever done things like making vulgar comments about women to their friends, sending explicit photos to women in their DMs, or relieving a woman of guilt under pressure put or nudge into doing anything.
“Most men don’t look in the mirror and see a problem. But it is staring us straight in the face. Sexual violence starts long before you even think so. Don’t be that guy, ”say the actors.
In one Blog Post told Graham Goulden, a former police officer who now specializes in combating violence by men, that male sexual claims are the belief that men are owed sex “because of their manhood”. Lots of young men see “draw” as a game, he said – “but there are often winners and losers in games.”
Goulden, a police officer with over 30 years’ experience who previously worked in Glasgow’s anti-violence unit, said: “The truth is, no one ever owes anything” sex – not when they are nice, not when they are dominant, and not just because they are a man.
“If we really want to wipe out Rape culture and to reduce sexual violence, we need to understand how male sexual pretensions negatively affect everyone, including men. “
Goulden also said he was concerned about the legitimacy being seen in the mainstream media but was particularly concerned about the internet pornography and the way in which instances of Catcalling and sexual assault is often dismissed.
He said men can address male sexual claims by being spatially aware and clearly demonstrating approval, and challenge others to molest women on the street. He also encouraged men not to “trash talk” women, to talk to their friends about male sexual claims and to consider their own behavior.
A can also be found on the campaign website Blog List ten fictional characters who are “that guy”, including James Bond, Danny Zuko out fat, Glenn Quagmire out Family Guy, and “most men” in Game of Thrones.
The campaign received praise after the video was released, with Rape Crisis Scotland tweeting: “It’s great to see a Scottish Police campaign on sexual violence that focuses on the only culprits: the perpetrators. Safety advices for women won’t stop sexual violence, but men’s attitudes and behaviors can, so #DontBeThatGuy.
Many others also accepted Twitter to share their thoughts on the campaign:
Political activist Femi Oluwole shared a video discussing what men can do to address problematic behavior on Jeremy Vine’s show on Channel 5.
Oluwole said men need to start calling their “problem friends” who have uncomfortable views about women.
“These conversations need to be with our buddies,” he said. “If we look at what we can do, how can we improve the future, then as men we can start.”
The campaign comes in the wake of Sarah EverardThe case is drawing to a close. Everard’s case as well as the murder Sabina In, opened a national conversation on women’s safety and violence against women and girls.
Last weekend in London, mother of four Nicole Hurley was the fourteenth woman killed since Everard was kidnapped, raped, and murdered in March. A 40-year-old man is charged with murder.
Previously spoken to indy100, Jamie Klingler, co-founder of Reclaim These Streets, said, “Men have to shout it out. With men, you know the bastard in your office, or who you don’t leave the bar because you know he’s turning on the new recruit, or who you tell girls not to take a taxi with.
“You know who this man is and he needs to be sorted out. When we complain, we are not taken seriously, we are not promoted.
“Men are the ones who can stop violence from men. You know the questionable man in your circle of friends, we know them all, we have them all, ”she said.
Last week called a potential new offer from BT the 888 or “Walk me home” service was created to make people feel safer when traveling. Reportedly supported by the Minister of the Interior Priti Patel, The service would track the user on their route and alert their emergency contacts if they didn’t reach their destination on time.
The proposed service was slammed As people felt that it was even more stressful for women to adjust their behavior and fear that doing so could maintain a culture of victim blame.
The review of the proposed 888 service is the latest in a series of measures and advice that have received backlash for placing the burden on women rather than throwing light on toxic masculinity and misogyny. The police met received a backlash when they did advised women to “run away” when you feel insecure.
The advice to “wave off a bus” when stopped by an officer they don’t trust was dropped by the Met after receiving backlash metro reported.